Pareto Rule Rules OK

We’ve been having some really weired weather lately. Firstly, the long, cold, dark winter. And now burning sunshine with massive storms and freak, flash flooding. The fire brigade is on round the clock call-out.

The last time we had such heavy rain, our field shelter was flooded. Elizabeth took action and made sure that future heavy rain water would be directed away from our stable. And it worked.

I’m very appreciative of this kind of positive action. It is nice and reassuring to have people around me who are prepared to move beyond negative events as quickly as they can.

The Pareto principle states that roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. In other words, life is 20 per cent what happens and 80 per cent how you react to it.

You cannot control external events in your life, but you sure can control how you respond or react to them.

For example, you cannot control the weather (20%), but you can control how you react to it (80%). You cannot control whether or not your car will breakdown but you can control how you react if it does.

Another example: You are incredibly busy and have to catch a plane or taxi for an important meeting. There is a delay. Your schedule is already gone to pot and it is only 9 a.m.  Why take out your frustration on the airport staff or taxi driver? They have no control over what is going on. Why get stressed out? It will make things worse. Use your time to resolve the situation as best you can.

What about you? Are you prepared to move beyond the negative or are you more comfortable staying in the non-positive zone?

Now you know the 20/80 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. It takes work and focus and determination. You have nothing to lose if you try it. You might even have lots to gain.

You can change the way you see things, the way you react and the way you respond by applying the 20/80 principle. You can be on the right end of the scale.

I got a stable that remained dry despite the heavy flooding. What will you get out of it?

“do not let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game”.

Enjoy your ride!

Lucy

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To be (a winner) or not to be (a winner)

An unexpected summer heat wave means we can enjoy our grass field once again. No trace of those long winter months. Everyone is busy, busy, busy.

I hardly see Emily now, she so busy learning for school exams and tests. Busy, busy, busy.  It’s non-stop.  She has had differing results, some good, and some less good.  She suffers from really bad nerves before and during tests, and she is letting this ruin her confidence in her abilities and her belief in herself to do well.

Do you know what one of the main differences is between successful people and the not so successful?

The first answer that comes to me is self–talk. Your own self talk makes all the difference. What do I mean by that? This is what I often observe in people day in day out from my field: Most people I observe are often:

  • Thinking the worst.
  • Have many negative thoughts.
  • Don’t believe they can or will achieve anything.
  • Complain – a lot!
  • Always see the worst in situations,
  • Put others down.

All that negative energy in people! It’s just no fun to be around.

The way people talk to themselves makes all the difference in what they achieve, or don’t achieve.  To what they attract into their lives, and what they don’t attract into their lives.

So, turn it around. Look for solutions instead of complaining. Look for opportunities and embrace change when it happens. Only you can do that. No one can do it for you.

Instead of Emily saying this is too difficult, and letting her nerves get the better of her, she’s practiced one sentence or phrase which helps put her in a better frame of mind before and during tests.

“Although this is a difficult test, I’m not a dumb or stupid person. I read the test instructions calmly and clearly, and then I do my best, because I deserve it!

What are you saying to yourself before important episodes in your life? Do you have a sentence you can say to yourself to put you in the right frame of mind?

Get started today.

“Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.” —Howard Thurman

Enjoy your ride!

Lucy

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Follow the leader – or not?

Elizabeth has been helping someone with their horse. Like everyone else, this owner wanted success with her horse but wasn’t getting it quite like she’d hoped. So she decided to get some coaching. Elizabeth went to see her and watched her working with her horse.

It quickly became apparent where the problem lay:  leadership. More exactly,  in leadership of the herd. The lady was ineffective at leading her herd of 2 and as a result, her horse had started misbehaving and become difficult to control. The lady herself had become frightened of her horse and started to dread working with it. Not quite the romantic horse whispering relationship of blockbuster novels!

Elizabeth worked with her until the lady began to see that SHE was affecting the herd’s success. Her insecurity was contagious and her horse was affected by her inability to be a strong leader for him.  She realised that she was blaming all outside influences for how her horse was reacting – the cat jumping up onto a hay bale, someone leading their horse past the grooming area deliberately to cause an upset etc. She did not notice that it was she who was creating the very high level of anxiety in her horse.

Elizabeth gave her some tips and tricks on how to communicate more effectively with her horse. She began to interpret, act and react differently to situations as they arose when spending time with her horse. A turn around ensued. Horse and owner became a team or herd.

Noticing the impact our actions or reaction have on those around us isn’t always easy. It often takes someone standing on the outside of the relationship to notice where support and changes are necessary.

This lady now loves going to see her horse again. Where there was once frustration and fear from both sides of the “herd” has become a trusting partnership.

This kind of shift is available to you – with any relationship! By learning how to observe yourself and how you interact with others will help give you power for changing things in and around yourself that you previously might not have seen or been able to change.

This lady learned to look at leadership from the follower’s perspective. This helped her to assess her leadership skills by seeing what others and her horse see.

Everything stands and falls on leadership.

“We want reproducible predictable response not wild reactions. A scared horse has wild reactions. The non frightened horse thrives on our leadership and gives good responses.” Richard Thomspon, horse trainer

Enjoy your ride!

Lucy

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I went base over apex – what to do?

I’ve been watching spring arrive in the ‘Woods. It has taken its time this year, admittedly, but despite all adverse weather conditions, it has definitely got its foot in the door.

I love spring. Elektra obviously does – she really kicks her heels with attitude out on our field.

We mares got so carried away that we broke the fence by accident and got out onto the big fields that are saved for our summer grazing. We had a great time galloping around – all that wide open space. I wasn’t being careful enough and lost my footing, going head over heels a few times. It shook me up quite a bit, and judging by the look on Elizabeth’s face, she was shaken too. However, in the words of a song I hear sometimes, I got up, brushed myself off and set off again after my friends.

The spring flowers never seem to give up do they? It has been a cold, miserable, long, dreary and dark February with icy temperatures day in day out and yet those colourful little spring flowers still bounce back at us like a boomerang. They are doing what comes naturally. And they do not give up.

You too can pick yourself up when life pulls the carpet out from under you. You can achieve as much success as you want to.

We are surrounded by so much negative junk these days that I guess we all need someone on the side-lines cheering for us.

So here is my encouragement. Never give up. You can do it. Make it a habit.  Don’t buy into the junk belief that life has to be a struggle. Achieving success mean being prepared to try something new to get different results. Look for a solution.

“Always think of what you have to do as easy and it will become so.” Emile Coue.

Enjoy your ride.

Lucy

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Are you living in a no garbage zone?

People are tense. The long winter has come to an end at last, spring is somewhere just around the corner (though here in the ‘woods we are having a very wintry-like early taste of spring) and the news is full of the earthquake catastrophe in Japan. Some friends of Elizabeth’s who live in Japan say that the western media has lost all sense of ethics in its reporting of the catastrophe, though of course it is a catastrophe in anyone’s language.

One man’s meat is another man’s poison and all that.

But what I do see from my field is that some people are becoming more and more like garbage trucks (or dustbin lorry if you are more familiar with British English). They are having their own kind of melt-down. They run around full of frustrations and anger and dump their rubbish on all and sundry.

What a great way to improve life – dump it all on your family, friends and even your pets. Not.

Character building begins in our infancy and continues until death.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

People who dump their rubbish on you are thoughtless and rude.

Do not become a dumping ground for other people’s rubbish. Move on, Retain your own equilibrium and self-esteem. If you can’t control something … well, you can’t control it so don’t focus on it. Focus on what you can control.

At the end of the day ask yourself these things:

  • Did I live?
  • Did I love?
  • Did I matter?

Don’t let other people’s behaviour hold you back from living your life courageously doing what you love and making a difference.

Have the courage to assess and make changes to areas of your life that maybe aren’t running so smoothly.

An unexamined life isn’t worth living.” Socrates

Enjoy your ride!

Lucy

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It was feeling like a homeless person who doesn’t know how much he has in the bank.

February I mean. February was such a grey month – very cloudy and literally freezing cold. And boring!

My field was frozen solid too. And grey. Owners came to visit their horses, obviously, but the ground was so frozen they couldn’t do too much with them. At times it was just too icy. The horses were frustrated too. We could feel that spring was somewhere in the air, but where?

From what I could tell, we were all bored and frustrated – humans and horses alike.  I noticed many people comfort eating – chocolate and sweeties in their pockets along with the usual carrots and tidbits for their horses.  And we were all hungry for sunshine. As I said February was a very grey month.

Emily and Elizabeth were bored. I was too.  Of course the two EEs came to see me and groom me but it just isn’t the same as being taken out and going out for a ride. There’s quality time and then there’s quality time if you see what I mean.

At times like that it’s hard to remember that being satisfied with your lot is very much an inside job (and no I don’t mean how satisfaction feels after eating a bar of chocolate!)

Boredom can very easily become a habit, even for us equines.  A habit that is difficult to get out of.

I find that simple things work the best: just try to reach out for something that feels better.

A small step at a time.  One step today, two tomorrow.  In a year you might have made 365 steps to feeling better (without even over-indulging on chocolate!)

For the next 3-4 weeks every time you feel down or frustrated or even downright bored, I challenge you to reach for a thought that makes you feel a little bit better.

Whatever your reality might be, I challenge you to overturn the feelings of boredom or frustration by choosing thoughts that are simply better than the last one.

Who knows where the first steps might take you!

“There are two ways of being rich. One is to have all you want, the other is to be satisfied with what you have.” – Unknown

Let me know how you get on.

Enjoy your ride

Lucy.

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