Elizabeth has been helping someone with their horse. Like everyone else, this owner wanted success with her horse but wasn’t getting it quite like she’d hoped. So she decided to get some coaching. Elizabeth went to see her and watched her working with her horse.
It quickly became apparent where the problem lay: leadership. More exactly, in leadership of the herd. The lady was ineffective at leading her herd of 2 and as a result, her horse had started misbehaving and become difficult to control. The lady herself had become frightened of her horse and started to dread working with it. Not quite the romantic horse whispering relationship of blockbuster novels!
Elizabeth worked with her until the lady began to see that SHE was affecting the herd’s success. Her insecurity was contagious and her horse was affected by her inability to be a strong leader for him. She realised that she was blaming all outside influences for how her horse was reacting – the cat jumping up onto a hay bale, someone leading their horse past the grooming area deliberately to cause an upset etc. She did not notice that it was she who was creating the very high level of anxiety in her horse.
Elizabeth gave her some tips and tricks on how to communicate more effectively with her horse. She began to interpret, act and react differently to situations as they arose when spending time with her horse. A turn around ensued. Horse and owner became a team or herd.
Noticing the impact our actions or reaction have on those around us isn’t always easy. It often takes someone standing on the outside of the relationship to notice where support and changes are necessary.
This lady now loves going to see her horse again. Where there was once frustration and fear from both sides of the “herd” has become a trusting partnership.
This kind of shift is available to you – with any relationship! By learning how to observe yourself and how you interact with others will help give you power for changing things in and around yourself that you previously might not have seen or been able to change.
This lady learned to look at leadership from the follower’s perspective. This helped her to assess her leadership skills by seeing what others and her horse see.
Everything stands and falls on leadership.
“We want reproducible predictable response not wild reactions. A scared horse has wild reactions. The non frightened horse thrives on our leadership and gives good responses.” Richard Thomspon, horse trainer
Enjoy your ride!
(Photo: Mittinger www.babystorkz.com)
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