Herd life and responsibility.

Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about the term intention.  Actually, I’ve been thinking about the value of intentions and taking responsibility about your actions and their outcomes. I’ve been thinking about this a lot as I’ve been watching Elizabeth and Elektra over the last two weeks since Elektra arrived here. And I’ve also been watching Emily’s progress at her new school.

When she arrived Elektra was VERY nervous, excited and had no idea what was going on in her life.  She jumped clean over the stable door after only a few minutes of being here. Elizabeth had to ask Emily to come and get me to go and help calm Elektra down. Obviously it has worked because now after only two weeks Elektra is well on the way to following in my footsteps and becoming a great family horse for Emily.

This hasn’t happened by chance.  I knew Elizabeth would have very clear intentions regarding her responsibility to Elektra and to Emily, and how she could give Elektra the best start to her new life with us.

And indeed she has. She’s been up in the stables every day at 5 a.m. before going to school to make sure that she’s the first person Elektra sees in the morning (after saying hello to me of course).   She does the stable work and feeds Elektra.  Elektra has started to focus on her more and more. Slowly but surely she has become the calm and dependable source of security that Elektra was looking for besides the company of other horses. Elektra can now be led around without panicking; she lets her feet be picked up without any problems, which I’m sure our blacksmith will be grateful for; she can be groomed without any problems and so on. When Elektra arrived here her “danger radar” was on full alert. Now her radar is down to “normal”.

Elizabeth made it her intention to give Elektra the best start she could. She gave it her attention and now she has results with no tension.

Emily has been going through a similar learning experience. She made the change from elementary school to grammar school in September. This change was for her pretty much the same as when Elektra arrived here. She was also VERY nervous, excited and had no idea what was ahead of her at the new school.

Emily hasn’t quite adjusted to the changes as well as Elektra has to hers. Her “danger radar” hasn’t yet returned to normal. As such, she is having to learn how to take responsibility for her actions:

The dictionary definition of responsibility runs along the lines of duty, obligation and burden. In our day-to-day lives, the word responsibility is often used to give the impression of the burden of blame or proof to someone or something.

Often in life, it becomes easy to blame others for our upsets. However, if we give the word responsibility a new meaning, maybe we can see that it means dealing with circumstances as they are. i.e. to deal with the reality of the situation you are in. If you take the standpoint that you are the author of your own life then you are the author of the situation you are in. You can then make yourself the author of your own experience.

I mean, circumstances are what they are and you can chose how you deal with them. If you are the author of your own life you have power over anything and everything in your life. Therefore, you have created your own reality. There is no one to blame. That leaves you with the ability to take actions that will make a difference in the face of the reality you are dealing with.

As a horse, I love the herd life. Most humans seem to want to follow the crowd too. Indeed, most of you have been taught to follow the crowd, or so it seems to me. It isn’t easy to break away from this thinking. Fear is one of the biggest reasons: There is a lot of fear associated with leaving the herd. However, in order to take responsibility for your actions you have to learn to think for yourself. You have to become capable of critical thought.

Members of a herd rarely engage in critical thought.

The young Elektra has found a new and safe herd and learned to trust Elizabeth and humans in general. When Elizabeth takes her away from the herd, she doesn’t panic. She knows she is in safe hands.

Emily is also now finding out about the new definition of responsibility and learning to engage in critical thinking. Not running with the herd and actively becoming the author of her own life.

Are you too?

Enjoy your ride.

Lucy

(Photo: Mittinger  www.babystorkz.com)

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