My grass is very green. How green is yours?

Someone was talking about grass the other day. Being a horse I was of course immediately interested in what they were talking about. It turned out they were talking about “the grass always being greener on the other side”. I didn’t quite know what that meant and nor did Emily. Elizabeth had to explain.

The talk had been about some people who have kept their their horses at many different stables over the years. At first, they were always happy with the new stables but then with time, all the same problems which they had had at all the previous stables started cropping up and repeating themselves. So, as usual the people started to complain and eventually moved their horses to yet another new stable.

Elizabeth asked Emily what she thought about the story. She asked Emily to consider  if it was purely coincidence that  the people had been to 10 different stables with their horses and none of the stables had worked out for them. She asked Emily to think about the equation of the 10 different stables. Out of 10 different stables,  what had been the one thing that had remained constant in all the changes?

The people themselves of course!

It is so easy to change things on the outside – different stables, different equipment, different training facilities, even different horses,  but some people always fail to make any of them work. They always think the grass will be greener on the other side.  They don’t realise that in order for things to be different they have to start with themselves.

As I have observed before, nothing will change in your life if  you maintain the same thought patterns and the same beliefs. You and your horses  will always have the same life and same expectations and same outcomes. Nothing will change.

If you want things to change or be different, you have to initiate and create the changes in your thoughts, beliefs, outlook and actions that will help you create the change you want.

Change is never easy, but without changing your thoughts on the inside, nothing can change on the outside. The answer is very rarely “out there”.

Every day you are attracting things into your life. Some you will perceive as being good things, others as being bad things. You are attracting into your life what you are thinking about.  You are just not aware that you are doing it.  There are no coincidences.

Change starts with awareness. Become aware of what you are thinking. Your subconscious mind is attracting you to people and events upon which your mind is focussing. So if you (sub-consciously) look for the same experiences from your present stable as you had in the previous stable, then that is exactly what will show up in your life – the same experience!

What you think about and focus upon regularly is exactly what you will get more of. If you think about doom and gloom, that is exactly what will show up in your life.

Your thoughts are creating your life – every day!

Train unconscious living into living consciously.

  • Decide upon what you want to achieve.
  • Direct you thoughts to that achievement – regularly.
  • Think about how you are going to achieve the results you want.
  • Train your subconscious mind into a new way of thinking and to take notice of how oportunities come your way and how you use them, or not.

It takes a few extra minutes per day to work on changing your thoughts and following  through until you achieve the results you want. You have to keep at it until you can feel and see the results in your life. There are no coincidences.

You and you alone are in charge of your destiny.

Now it is time for me to go out to my green grass.

Enjoy your ride!


(Photo: Mittinger

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2 Responses to My grass is very green. How green is yours?

  1. I would like to add to Lucy’s very wise musings, that people also often change vet, farriers, feed, and even water in hopes of fixing the horse that they can’t control. The most common and worst offense to the horse is the changing to more severe bits and other head immobilizing divices, when it is the hands of the rider that cause the rebellion from the horse. Handlers of horses must change themselves to live in harmony with their horses!!! Looking at life through the eyes of Lucy is a good start.

  2. haffnerhorse says:

    Hi Richard, thanks for commenting. I think very few people look at the world through their horse’s eyes. I’m lucky in that respect because Elizabeth has brought Emily up to see things as I see them and to know why I am acting or reacting to things like I do. This has taken time and training and increasing awareness from both of them. Not all of my stable mates are so lucky. They have well-meaning but ignorant owners who have little or no idea about horse physiology, psychology, herd instincts, and how horses process information and stimulation.

    However, I believe there are some good trainers like yourself, and others, who dedicate their lives to teaching people to see through the eyes of their horse. Some of these trainers are well known, others less so but are working tirelessly to improve the world of the horse.

    Their goal, like Elizabeth’s, is to improve each horse handler’s performance, enjoyment, and safety with their horse. It is also to improve the quality of life of the horse: by replacing force with a willing partnership; by replacing ignorance with understanding, and by replacing violence and disrespect of the horse with compassion and respect.

    Enjoy your ride.

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